Went to gym this morning. h works at the gym but didn't arrive till just as I was leaving. I didn't see him arrive and walked out without looking for him (just didn't want to deal with drama).
He calls me about an hour later while I'm getting d ready for school and me ready for work.
Accuses me of having a boyfriend. this is because my (female) friend who I am training with has a male flatmate who was doing his own thing at the gym. I only met him yesterday and he is GAY GAY GAY. Like if you saw him walk more than 10 feet or heard him talk you would know he was gay. Anyway h saw me leaving with my friend and her friend and assumed the worst. I don't think he fully believed me when I said I didn't have a boyfriend. I got him to talk to d. h asked d if mummy has a boyfriend.
Not happy Jan. Decided to try adn let it go because I had to ask d what daddy said to warrant her odd 'wtf?' expression when he asked her. I snooped ...bad me.
He rings me when I am at work about three hours later and tells me that he missed me and would like to come watch me play water polo that night and then hopefully stay over.
???
I said..."I don't think so"
[background if you need it. He has a girlfriend.]
He said he misses me and wants to cuddle me and wants to reconnect etc etc.
I pointed out that he has a girlfriend. I am working on myself with a counsellor and have no time for any relationship with anyone but myself - not that I would want one. When asked I told him I didn't see a future for us based on the current situation (ie him being angry with me, him having a girlfriend etc).
Anyways. Tonight he rings once I got home from water polo and said he needed to tell me something and that I wouldn't be happy about it and likely be very angry and upset and that is was probably the ultimate betrayal.????
I try to delay the conversation (gosh...so many scenarios run through my head - is the girlfriend pregnant? has he slept with someone else? is there more stuff that he's been hiding?) and tell him I'll call him back when I've gotten d to bed. He then tells me not to answer the phone until I call him back. Odd. Sounds like he's pissed someone off and they are going to call me.
I call him back nearly an hour later and tell him that I don't want to hear what he has to say tonight if it's going to be so bad. I request that he call his parents or siblings, tell them what is going on and then decide with them what the best thing is to do. I then say that once he has done that then I would meet him for lunch tomorrow but that I will have a friend with me (for support).
He doesn't like that idea and starts to insist that he has to tell me now and that I "have to hear this now". I disagree. He says I have to hear it from him or I'll hear it from someone else. I say I'm hanging up now. I hang up and leave the phone off the hook.
I get changed into some jeans and get the car out and drive across the street and turn around and watch the house (d is asleep in her room....I'm starting to freak out cos I think h will come around to the house to insist on telling me).
I ring a good friend and we talk about the best solution.
I decide to go back to the house but I leave the car on the verge for a quick getaway if required and put a bag of clothes in the boot for d and I.
My phone is charging.
My friend rings me back to check on me. I have blocked the front door with something heavy (h has keys - the house is in both our names). While I'm on the mobile to my friend, the land line rings. I let it go to the answering machine. I check the message. It is from a female friend of his who wants me to call her because she doesn't know what is going on with h.
I reckon h has actually slept with this chick as well and that's what he was going to tell me. He has denied sleeping with her in the past and claimed that she was only a friend.
Of course...I don't really know what happened. I don't want to know. I don't want my gut to be right that my h is a liar and a cheater.
I think I'm okay now. I'm going to the gym in the morning for a kick boxing type class which I think will be good for me. Just hope h doesn't try and come to talk to me. Hope my friend doesn't pike on me so she can give me moral support.
