I think you have done quite a bit and grown quite a bit since you started posting here. You very rarely leave posts where you sound angry or controlling. I know these changes were important to you.
I agree with the others, you need your space, she needs space and that will give you both more perspective. Esp her since she has had it a little too good all this time with you there helping.
I would suggest not bringing her to the X-Mas party, she did just file for divorce. Sorry I know this is painful but it may be better to go it alone. Of course you know what is best for your sitch.
Keep posting, I think we all have some good advice to lend...besides who else would we have to join in our suggestive banter that helps us all see the lighter sides of things?
Me: 30 EX-H: 37 DD: 5 Separated 6/07. MC for months, EX-H quit MC. Divorce Final 8/14/08. Trying to move on with new life.
