WAW does not want to try

[I_Wanna_Make_It_Work]

ST took the words right out of my mouth ... read and reread it. Also, catch up on her sitch. She busted her D. But let me repeat them anyway and add a thing or two.

1. GAL and invite W almost as a courtesy to your events. You don't expect she will say yes, but if she does... great.

2. For me it was piano, not guitar. I have a year under my belt. Do it!!!

3. No list of your needs. That's a long way away. This is about W's needs right now. You will have to take a back seat. Self-sacrifice. Your needs will be met eventually. Just not now. Find your comfort and validation from God. Do not put pressure on your W.

4. You also don't present her with a list of possible activities. You simply tentatively schedule them and then get her consent. Be a leader.

5. No OM talk. He is insignificant. Do not give him or their pseudo-relationship any credibility. In a year, W and I have had 2 conversations about OM. And that was 2 too many. Forget it. Push it down, man. No good can come from it right now. When she recommits to the M, then it may be time. Not now.