WAW does not want to try

[S.T. _I Made It!]

no no no.... don't give her that list. That is WAY WAY too much pressure. knowing what you know now. I would even say not to invite her out very often. try it once and see what happens, just a nonchalant hey, I'm going to watch "blah blah' at the movies, you wanna come? "no not tonight" "okay, maybe next time, have a good night!" all in an upbeat mood. at least go out for yourself a few times inbetween each time you ask if she would come. It sounds like she thinks you don't have much of a life, from her comment about church and R talk. You want her to think your having fun with your life, enjoying yourself, loving your life. otherwise, why in the world would she want to join you if your life is dull and unhappy or full of worry?


and no, you can't talk about the OM. does it even matter? look we all screw up, and even if she ML with OM (which I haven't read your sitch enough to know) it doesn't matter. we all are sinners and God has given us the power to forgive. So whether we know everything right now, it really isn't going to change the past. Forgive her now for anything she could have already done. I forgave my husband the second I figured it out. It may have taken much longer to forget, but if we cannot forgive others, how can God forgive us? When you guys really DO start working on the M together, that is the time to let your concerns about OM and other things out in the open. Now is definitely NOT the right time.

You just need to focus on the things you need to change to make you a better man/husband/etc. Don't worry that she's not telling you anything. I was right there with you. But see you've already figured out so much, and you know her top 5LL right, so you have a LOT to work with. stop trying to jump to the end of the tunnel... you've got to trudge thru it first.