Input, WH and I own business together

[grid, lost]

[quote=micoms]Grid,

I don't think asking H to have dinner while in town is pursuing too much, if you were in his area would you appreciate an invite for dinner rather than eating alone?

Spoke with H late afternoon and ask if he would like to meet for dinner, silence. I then told him I had put my weapons so he did not have to continue with his nukes on high alert. More silence and then he said well if you want to drive out and meet me for dinner yea, he would have dinner. So....We had Dinner Together ! Went fairly well, few dead moments but all and all ok. We even went back to our old time of sharing a dessert. H loves dessert and I only want a bite or two. So one dish, two spoons later we shared strawberry short cake. lol had to fight for my three bites.
After dinner, I learned he planned to sleep on the street/road in his car. Told him I was sorry he felt so uncomfortable he would rather sleep in the street. But I also said could not control the way he felt or what he did. Then proceeded to tell him that i still loved him ( I know was not to use the L word) and wanted him to be happy. So if he wanted to go, then go, he is free I would not hold him back, if being with OW is what makes him happy then go , that is what I wanted for him. He is free and I just want him to be happy. (hope I didn't make a big goof up by saying these things to H, no I was not talking D and H knew this to) H was shocked and looked very sad. I never see in his eyes, love or happyness when OW is mentioned. Am starting to believe he really doesn't want to be in a life time committment with her. something is missing in his eyes when ever any mention of her. You can't hide deep feelings they just show in your eyes and they are not there in his. Guess I am still as confused as before. lol
Again H had a few goodies to give me. We use to have an antique business together and often in the course of finding antique inventory you come upon great used stuff in excellent condition for pennies on the dollar. H found a boldt of cloth for a victorian chair I have plus a book on CD. the author is Obommua (sp) presd. candidate. Should be wonderful to listen to.
Also I collect old bricks and H found two 1800s bricks while out in the field on a client's project. He brought those a long to.
I tried to stay positive and focus on future plans. Fell backwords a couple times but all in all did ok.

Sorry no family left, must be hard, no built in support group. Any good friends? Strange how hindsight is always 20/20. I look back and can see things I should have done differently also.

Thank you, Mike for your kind words. Yes it is a bit of a shock one day when you realize all of your family has moved on to the after life, no I am not an elderly person yet! ROFL.
yes, I have several close friends. In fact few months back after autioning off contents and selling my parents' house (by myself). Shocked when a few days later, friends many old & not so old friends called and ask me if I was ok. Inquired as Worried about the shock of having had to sell everything by myself, etc. Friends from elementary school days, college, living here and else where in US., etc. I was really touched by their concern and kindness. Never realized until that very painful time just how many wonderful kind friends I have. So you see I am a very lucky soul for I have good solid friends.

Dear the 20/20 hindsight, is it a curse or a blessing?? Sort speculate more curse than blessing What do you think? Look back and think How could I have been so blind, so selfish?? So cold hearted? then what good does it really do to look back and pass judgement on yourself? All one can do is from this day forward try to do what you feel in your heart is the right thing to do! What are your thoughts on the 20/20 hindsight?

went to referee recertification clinic last night. A few guys I reffed with were suprised to see me, and looking so good. Someone had heard i was rehabing at Drake Hosp(hosp for severe brain injury, terminal illnesses and intensive physical rehab). If W comes back I'll give up reffing to spend more time with her.

GOOD FOR YOU ! Wonderful! Follow your passion and it will never steer you wrong. Why would you stop if W comes back? Problem in the past? Were you aware of this problem? Compromise?
Correct me if I am wrong, seems as if everyone was in agreement W's job conflicted with everything. Why did W continue if this is so? what type of work was she doing? Job to me appears to be the 800 lb gorrila in the room, am I correct or way off base?
Don't get me wrong, H and I have our own dozen 800 lb gorrilas running around in the room.

MLC has a lot of people quit after they start posting. That it is kind of a tight group. Keep posting someone will take you under their wing. He said he'd look for my post. Still got to do it.

I'll remember this and keep posting on MLC. No one responds, well we certainly can't grow very well can we? GRRRRRR. BTW, where is the link to your original stitch post?

back to work 2 weeks early. Can't wait, although my route is gone. Supt told me they are going to try something new that co does in Europe. I'll be troubleshooter, I'll take others repeat calls and fix

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Mike, Good for you and go get em !!!! This could really put a feather in your cap as my grandma-ma use to say! Touching in with world market activity is a solid step into the future and sounds like a nice change with a challenge. Hate change for the sake of a change! Are you excited about this new direction for your return to work assignment? now your Dr. is going to put down as your return to work date no sooner than 1/03/08??? that way you can swing into the new year and have an extra day for R & R from the party. lol .......bit ofIrish in me.
lol, actual after my neck surgery, called the surgeon back and ask if he would move my RTW, date up about 3 wks so I could go to the bernsese mountain dog national show in Gettysburg for a week. Dr. laugh and said let me pull your chart, then called me back and said to me, I agree you will need more Recovery time, what date do you want me to amend to???? Sweet !!! And I still had my vacation time when I got back to work!!!!! How do they say it, no pain , no gain!

I feel lucky to have the kids we have, they have turned out to be great young, responsible adults. I have gotten closer to all of them in the last 6mos.

Mike, do yourself a favor, go to the mirror, look at yourself, what do you have????, a wonderful family, great adult kids, wonderful GKs, good job, Health, and W still friends with and she is mother to your kids...=====equals===== Mike, a very wealthy man !

Well consider me a friend, if you need someone to vent to i'll listen.

Thank You Mike.....we will have to raise a glass of wine together this holiday, by computer lines. what type wine you like? I go for dry whites, being as I am in finger lake wine country, sorta like those bitie NYS wines. Ever have NYS wines before? Several good wineries here, several terrible ones too. lol
Ok, rattled enough for the night, thanks for listening. Sorry so long.
later,
grid, lost