Calling Corri

[Imconfused0807]

Corri,

What's going on kid? I get the feeling from your posts of late that they have not been....mmmm what shall I say?...Corri-like. Everything OK?

Just checking in on my cyber-hero. If I'm way off base..please tell me to shut the f*ck up. I'll act as the whipping boy....but I'm still gonna love ya

[Corri]

You sweety, thanks for the concern.

No. Haven't been okay. Been having issues with the BF... everything came to a head today... drove up to Michigan yesterday for a short-notice visit. I'm home today. Short notice visits can be... fun... or illuminating.

I've been having issues with this R for some time... I just haven't really had the courage/stamina to face the issues that have been staring me in the face... kind of did the whole bury my head in the sand thing... {phhhhmmmwwweewwwhhhhh

And then I got a guilt trip from him... and a 'you sound so clinical and distant. So that's that? Just like that, you end things? You forgive your brother, you forgave your x, but not me.'

Wow. Was that the wrong card to play with me. Because it really had nothing to do with my brother or my xH... but the relationship between he and I... and choices. There is no BLAME in that. There is nothing to 'guilt' one another over on that... no one is a rotten S.O.B.

I'm more pissed, quite honestly, that I even HAVE to hold the fcking line. GD mfer. This is what nailed me last time... my inability to hold a boundary. If I didn't do it this time... when the line crossing was so blatant...

Well. There you go. So. I'm dead calm. But I'll be okay. It's cool. Thanks for asking.

[RedHeadWife]

We love you Corri! Take care of yourself and do what you need to do FOR YOU

[MJontheMend]

((Corri))


Let me tell you a little secret from one bunny to another - (sotto voce) "Boys have cooties."

Anyways, clearly, you are way cooler than me because at least you didn't get complimented for being the "least vengeful" woman someone ever dated. Also, Rainbow Brite sez "Every cloud has a silver lining" and that means PARTY WITH MOJO!

[RealJourney]

Corri, I am proud of you for facing up to whatever it is you faced up to, because this shtt never goes away. Even " in her head" Journey is in the mood for a party, animals and all! Even the depression hawk can come! Let's have some fun, folks!!!

[sat567]

(((Corri)))
He plays the guilt card? As my mother would say, "You're better off without him!"

Hairdog, who adds, with deepest sincerity, "Mu."

[Imconfused0807]

(((( Corri )))) oh and Mojo, I never got around to this on your thread (((( Mojo ))))

You're a strong girl and don't need to hear this from me..but you'll be ok through this. All my best wishes for you

Love ya,

The IC's

[Burgbud]

(Hairdog) As my mother would say, "You're better off without him!"

Heh. You've been on the NMMNG boards too long.


(Corri) I'm more pissed, quite honestly, that I even HAVE to hold the fcking line. GD mfer. This is what nailed me last time... my inability to hold a boundary. If I didn't do it this time... when the line crossing was so blatant...

Have you ever made *him* enforce a boundary?

[karen1]

Corri,

Honey - life is all about growing pains. Whether this R works or doesn't in the end Corri learns about being Corri. In the end it is up to you decide whether you treated him with respect and treated yourself with respect and if you did so, well, you won this round in the battle of life. If it doesn't work out - if you can't get past this and whatever other grievances you have against each other by now you recognize that there will still be good times and happy memories attached to this R. That, in itself, is a good thing.

I am getting more and more to a place where I recognize the good, happy memories I had with xH. A lot of them had to do less with the R and more with being young, nubile and 18 - 32 but there are still good and happy things that were there. There was also a great deal of misery but I chose to let that go in favor of the happy memories.

IOW - Enforce your boundary girl and let the chips fall where they may!

Karen

[Corri]

Mojo:

Yes. Boys have cooties. That's why I'm in the market for a MAN.

And believe me, I have every intention of coming to Michigan to see you... sometime soon. I LOVE Michigan and hanging with you, and I very much would like to have girl's night.

Thanks for the hug.