I have never heard the term helicopter parents ever. I know in our household if our children have to go to the hospital we are usually both there. Well, I should say with our daughters. It's usually me that does things mostly like tons of dental appointments, eye doctors, doctor visits, testing, etc. But if our daughters were ever that sick or had a big enough scare that they have to go the hospital they have always wanted us both there. We never thought anything of it but just supporting them. We also do as we please with the kid's. We can each make a decision if we are left to make it about any of their plans, or school just anything in general. The only thing we have ever agreed to inform each other of immediately is if one of them had to go to the hospital.
LOL I know the helicopter thing wasn't aimed at me. I have just never heard that term before. But we live in the south where familie's are just very close knit. You see lots of parents together with the kid's all the time.