No, make that angry, hurt, crushed, confused, tearful, afraid and betrayed.
The most troubling word above is afraid. All of the other words are OK. What I mean by that is that you need to move to a place where you no longer fear life without your wife around. You know, it is not only possible, it is likely that you will find absolute happiness in a life without your wife in it.
It is important that you stop believing that your happiness is dependent on the love and acceptance of your wife. It is not.
Is this an easy place to get to? Heck no!!! It took me six months!!! But you can get there? How?
1 - Stop pursuing. Do not contact her, and if you speak to her (in person or on the telephone), make sure that you end the conversation. The idea is to leave her wanting more.
2 - Do not tell her you are "divorce busting." Don't tell her about this website, don't give her books - in fact, don't talk about your relationship (past or present).
3 - Buy Divorce Remedy and read it. Start with page 124 (Last Resort Technique). Read this section, then flip to page 1 and read the book cover-to-cover.
4 - Post here often. Read what others have to say. Ask for help. Get help. Give help. Most of us here have been where you are, bro.
OK, that's enough homework for now. You have work to do. It will not be easy. But ask questions and seek advice. We are all on the same island here.
