Jak,
The problem is knowing whether or not your H is returning to his old conflict avoidance patterns, in which case you must not allow him to hide, and confront him on the issues you're concerned about, or whether he's not capable of dealing with marital issues due to his own level of depression or other issues.

What do you think? Is he hiding or is he too depressed, or overwhelmed, or ambivalent about the M to have a R talk?

CL

CL 53 W 54
M 20 yrs.
03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL
10-14' Piecing

"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."

----Tao Te Ching