In my mind, so what if you are the one to end it, on paper. He is the one who actually ended it when he said to you... "you have to be the one to end this. I am fine and dandy with how things are, and I'm not changing. Sorry. Can't help ya. Must suck to be you."
To me, by your H saying to you what he did, that is the cruelest thing another could possibly do to someone they 'claim' to love.
Say to your H... "I divorce you, I divorce you, I divorce you." That morally/spiritually separates you from him. And then tell him... "I am now acting as a divorced woman. That includes dating. When we can figure out the financial stuff, and when the kids are a bit older, and the housing market recover, we can make it legal like."
Move out of the bedroom. Live your life.
Fck him.
Sorry. I know this is a board to save marriages... but honey... if you are the only one trying... screw it. Let him try awhile. And he won't. Sorry. Know the type.
Boy... I'm cheery, huh? I'm sorry, girl, I just think you need to take control of your life... milk it, like he is. Why not?
