I see this as being viewed as pressure and controlling. I think asking that is the most logical thing a LBS would want to do, but look how far logical thinking has gotten you.
DB goes against eveything you would normally and logically do, emotionally as well.
If you ask about a time line....it usually isn't pretty, They usually aren't going to have a clue, and most of them get upset.
Boundaries with the kids and money, yes. Boundaries with anything else...you aren't there yet. Boundaries are lines that you will not let them cross without reprecussions. Can you do those reprecussions?
Threads - Try to keep your posting to one thread. Rather than make a new one for each question or thought. It keeps the board less cluttered and makes you easier to find, including your questions.
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