GGG- What it means to me.

[MJontheMend]

Shows of vulnerability by me are avoided like the plague by him.

Then he isn't reading you as vulnerable. He is either reading you as weak and needy or hurt and threatening. Here's a perfect example of what I mean by "letting" a man play you bunny. IMO, IC is a very normal guy. This might be due to the fact that we grew up in the same region of the country. I seduced one of my first BFs by pretending like I liked Ted Nugent -lol. When he posted the following to me earlier, he was "playing me bunny" in a friendly, non-sexual fellow BB and Michigander way.

Mojo, I don't want to be too protective...but stay inside today if you can...I just winched 3 people out of the ditch on my way into town this morning. My little 20 minute ride into town for ice cream {I know, I'm just like a pregnant woman...gotta have it..NOW!} turned into a 2 1/2 hour trip ! Didn't really have the extra energy to help these people but yet I couldn't pass them by and feel right about myself.

Because he is a self-aware fellow who has been reading my cranky thread, he felt the need to "apologize" up front for acting St.Bernard (no need really -lol- I'm not that ruggedly independent. thanks for the weather warning :)). Clearly, if he were a man in whom I was sexually interested it would behoove me to reply with something like "Thank you so much! You winched three people just this morning? Wow, you are the man!" Then if he was actually in my physical presence, I could slide into monkey mode by getting a wee bit physical, like maybe playing with the zipper on his lumberjack jacket and saying something like " You must have a really big winch, huh, wanna show me sometime?"

*IMPORTANT NOTE: I do not consciously make plans to behave in this manner in real life and when I do the dialogue is not quite as lame as the above. Also, frequently my male partners are well aware of what I am up to and laugh at me but go ahead and f8ck me anyways.*


One reason why it was really tough for me to be "bunkey" in my marriage was that my 2bx so rarely signaled Alpha by playing me bunny. He was a sexy man but in a very 2/3 David Bowie meets 1/3 Opie way. We both wanted to be the monkey and he wanted me cow rather than bunny. In retrospect, the one thing I might have tried to do differently is that I might have metaphorically just stood there calmly WAITING for him to open the door for me more often. However, I do believe my poor little bunny might have froze to death out in the cold.

Anyways, my 2bx is very different than your H. Your H is Alpha but not Top/Wolf, so maybe you need to play him more monkey in a differentiated manner and then just WAIT and see if he can act a little Top/Wolf.