Well it has been a week and I have had many ups & downs. WAH-MLCer still will not kiss me, but at least he doesn't turn away or flinch when I give him pecks.
One step at a time.
Big down was when WAH-MLCer called me at work last week and said he didn't know why he was having a problem w/this, could use some help picking up child, and that he was 15minutes away from going into a funeral of someone we both new.
I was shocked that I hadn't been informed, nor his family.
Basicaly, WAH-MLCer still had to pick child up - no one else available and I was working 2nd job. Later I told WAH-MLCer that I did not appreciate him making the decison for me about attending the funeral and that he was not to do that, ever again. He replied that it was not my place and I hadn't been invited, besides, I wasn't really friends w/that person. WTF??? I might not have been close friends, but I had know the person for about 17 yrs and that person had been to our rent house many many times. UGH!!!
Other downs are when WAH-MLCer would say he would be gone for an hour and actually be gone 2hrs. Saying he would be home in 30 and not home for 90 minutes. Little things like that.
Good notes:
We are going w/child to see X-Mas lights w/another family.
WAH-MLCer and I joined a church - even though it was mainly for child's future education. At least WAH-MLCer is being re-exposed to christianity again. Hard part for me is that the church we chose is way different than the religion I was raised in. Keep telling myself that this is for the good of my child, family and WAH-MLCer.
WAH-MLCer spending more family time...
Keep reminding myself that just one year later, things are better and I must keep detaching at the same time keep expectations at zero.
MariS
"Going for the Gold & not the Booby prize"
Become the change you want to see.....
Me - 37 WAH - 35 child - 2yrs Separated - August '06 Married - 10yrs, Together 18 Not feeling WAH's internal struggle - Feb '08
