Ingrid - the only person you can control in this is yourself. Confusion is one of the keynotes of MLC. And one day at a time.

Dealing with a MLCer we learn not to be reactive, to be calm, and to get on with our own lives while they thrash around in their private drama.

He will almost certainly try and suck you in.

The only thing that is a little strange is that he has had affairs in the past - how have you coped with these? Do you feel this is different?

Sorry you are here - they don't ALL last a long time in MLC! But it is best to be prepared.

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