So many positive, little signs. H not getting upset about the "mess", snuggling, him rubbing your belly (interesting), your increased security in your M, which naturally relegates Ff to a tiny corner...hope she ends up collecting dust there!
Love the tone of your post!!! However, I'm not sure if you're aware of this, and forgive me it it ruins anything...but the person I remember as the "Domestic Goddess" was Rosanne Barr from her early stand-up days!!
Quote: However, I'm not sure if you're aware of this, and forgive me it it ruins anything...but the person I remember as the "Domestic Goddess" was Rosanne Barr from her early stand-up days!!
Yikes!! I may have to rethink that. I don't think I've ever seen her stand-up routine. I only remember the tv show. I was always the same age as her "daughter" Darlene, and I used to think that was cool! How dorky is that!!!
I just got on a little bit ago. Sage had 17 new messages, sb had 11 and on and on. I hate not being here all weekend, but I'll happily accept the reason why. No time, since I'm spending it all with H and kids.
On Saturday, H went to Home Depot and got the supplies. We spent the rest of the day painting the laundry room and putting up cabinets (Instead of wire racks). It looks great! When we were done, we took the kids to the toy store (reward for s3 going #2 on the potty ) and then out to dinner. Sunday morning, we hung out together and then around noon, I had to leave to go to a wedding shower. When I got home, H went to the grocery store to pick up the food for dinner. he had a taste for tacos and I had nothing to make it with. It was a nice relaxing weekend.
There was only one bad moment: H was having trouble finding a stud to drill the cabinet into. I made a couple cracks about him not having a stud-finder. He snapped at me pretty bad. I told him I was just teasing him and he came back with, well you said it twice, that's not teasing. I just backed off and didnt snap back (a 180 for me) The tension eventually blew over.
H did speak with FF this weekend. He called their house to get some directions for me from her H. Of course she never gave him the phone, just relayed the info to her H. I was pleasant but present the whole time. Later in the evening, he told me that she had invited us out to dinner at a tapas restaurant downtown, but he declined. Good thing because if he'd have even asked me, I would have had to smack him! I may be able to deal with her presence, but I still don't have to be social. She never acts up at work or during the day. It only gets awful when we're social and their is drinking (and other people) involved. That is something that just dawned on me. She only acts provocatively when there are people to see it happen, not just me and her H, but a crowd. She is such a needy $&#%@! How annoying.
Anyway, back to good stuff...this is Piecing, right??!!? Did I happen to mention that H brought 2 bouquets of flowers home from the store? One for me and one for our D1. Plus, he mentioned to my s3, in my presence, if he would like to start meeting him once a week for lunch! That's my #1 language - quality time! To anyone out there who is a work-a-holic, penciling in time for loved ones can be such a loving gesture!
oh, and when I was at the wedding shower, he did all the laundry for me so I could start the week fresh! He's a total "Acts of Service" guy.
No ILY's yet, but I'm hoping to get one in time for our 6th Anniversary in June.
"A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing."
-George Bernard Shaw
That's not dorky, at least Darlene was the cool daughter .
Just what was it about the "Studfinder" pokes that rubbed your H the wrong way? (I mean I "get" stud...finder, but... ).
Glad you reigned it in and the tension blew over. AND H pointed out to you that what you were doing was bugging him....at the very time it was bugging him...
Quote: Just what was it about the "Studfinder" pokes that rubbed your H the wrong way? (I mean I "get" stud...finder, but... ).
He was frustrated because he'd hammered a nail into the wall at least 15 times (no exaggeration) without finding a stud. When he gets frustrated, he doesn't like to be teased. When the whole thing blew over it was on a comment from him that if he didn't find a stud in the next 2 minutes, he was running out to Home Depot and buy a studfinder (said with a smile and several colorful epithets). If you haven't figured it out yet, it's a tool.
And yes, it is a 180 for him to tell me if something is bothering him.
"A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing."
-George Bernard Shaw
Lots of goods during the weekend, and not snapping back is great. That would be my instinct, but learning instincts not always good.
Do you think he will eventually tire of FF neediness? She sounds very needy, down to the craving attention in public. I would think that would get old.
Wow..Erin good things are coming your way..are you sure the ff is not my h ff???Sure sounds like it..drinks and likes to act needy around groups..and we don't live that far away!!! Just kidding...keep doing what you need to...it's working!
Not much going on around here. It's cold, wet and miserable here in Chicago. The kids are making me nuts!! For whatever reason, I decided it would be a good idea to take them to the mall. I figured at least we wouldn't be sitting around the house all day, right?
Wrong!
My s3, pees his pants within minutes of being at the mall despite going before we left the house.
D1, spills her drink from lunch all over the stroller seat. I graciously give her my coat to sit on so she isn't sitting in cold wet sticky juice.
Just miserable in general. They hate shopping and in my haste to get out for awhile, I drag them anyway. I haven't been to the mall in weeks and now I remember why!!!!
H and I are going to a fundraiser tomorrow night. I was trying to find a new sexy outfit to wear. No luck with the little ones in tow.
My H has some interesting developments in his life. H had a pretty strange childhood. Parents divorced at 3, mom remarried at 5. Mom is a nutjob. Never allowed H's dad to go to b-ball games, etc. Called cops if he was 5 minutes late returning kids, accused H's D of sexually abusing his sis. Divorced 2nd H at 18 and left the state taking everything H had except some clothes and his comforter. Asks my H for any money he can give her to pay bills. He drains childhood savings account ($3500) and sends it to her. Visits a couple of months later and she used the money he sent to buy a new dining room set. Other stuff happens, he hasn't seen her or spoken to her in 12 years.
His mom had a child with stepdad. H's mom sold parental rights of child to stepdad for $25G. H hasn't seen sis in 12 years by request of stepdad. She recently got in touch with my H's other sis. They had dinner last night and expressed interest in seeing my H, meeting me and kids. H is cautiously optimistic. Doesn't want to get his hopes up and then have her leave his life again. Hopefully she'll give him a call soon. I think it would be good for him. It has always bothered him that he wasn't there to see her grow up.
Knowing all that about his mom explains a little about his behaviour, huh? Every now and again he brings up how he should probably be in counseling and all I can think is "Duh!!, do you really think you can have a totally psycho mother and not need a little therapy!!" All I ever say is "Probably"
Hope everyone is well,
Erin
"A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing."
-George Bernard Shaw
Just popped by to see how you were and catch up on things. I think you are right with the T thing. He needs it in the worst kind of way. I know you can't make him go. Anyway just thought I would say hi.
You know it sounds like you are starting to come through all of this. I think im going to be going to a new forum soon maybe seperated or peicing im not sure which one I fit but I will let you know. Have a good day. Lee
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