I just want to say something about your post about 'treatment' and children. I don't think anyone thinks you are a selfish father etc. Having several children of my own I can totally relate to the way you handle things and as a couple my H and I deal with things like that in a similar way. I think some people have just had bad experiences with their spouses and were trying to protect you in case your W got snipey about things like this.
You have done nothing that should make you feel you have to explain yourself on this issue.
You can't imagine the number of times I have ended up in A & E with one or other of the kids between the horses and other sporting injuries!!!!!!! Meanwhile H looks after the other kids or keeps the other balls up in the air!!!!
You take care.
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
