You were all right...unfortunately...

[bombardier50]

All,
Thanks for the advice and support.
While sitting in the airport yesterday feeling lower than crap, I called my DB coach. She echoed some of the things you said NOP, and we are going to use the "last resort" approach.

I got home, took a deep breath to "man-up", and hit her right between the eyes.

She denied everything.

They're "just friends."

They've "never had any sex."

The emails were "just harmless flirting."

I asked, "Have you ever wondered how his wife might feel about your harmless flirting?" And then, as I was coached, I just dropped it. She fumed, and I let her. I have planted the seed. She has some things to think about. For the rest of the evening, I left her alone. I acted happy and cheerful, like I was totally unaffected. I did not pursue her, badger her, etc. I gave her her space. I did not tell her I loved her.

This morning, when I left for work, she sought me out and gave me a kiss goodbye. Twice. I didn't say a word.

An emotional affair like this is a funny thing. After 23 years of marriage, hearing her tell another man that she loves him just rips my heart out. I think I'd almost feel better if she'd had sex with him instead.

It just doesn't get any lonelier than this. I went to bed last night and almost wished I wouldn't wake up...