I thought goals (from reading DR)were needed to describe what we wanted out of our marriage. Maybe there are two sets of goals...one for yourself and one for your marriage?
Anyway, H came by this morning to take baby girl to sitter. We were nice, usual good mornings, etc. He asked how the baby slept. I told him she is getting a little skirmy. He proceeded to tell me how she was with him and asked if she fought her sleep. Chit chatted around the subject. She has so much hair and we laughed because she looks so cute when she wakes up...all happy with a crazy hairdo. i went downstairs to get her bag ready.
I walked outside without shoes on and H seemed very concerned because he said there might be nails, etc. Told him I didn't realize the mess outside the condo. Small chit chat, etc. felt a little good he actually seemed concerned about me and not about the baby.
H was supposed to pick up baby girl last night but had to work late so he didn't make it by. I was a little sad because I had made dinner and had plans to be all non-chalet about asking him to stay for dinner if he wanted.
Anyway, this morning he asked since he didn't pick up baby girl last night if he could please pick her up tonight. I said please do...H said,"why, you have somewhere to go?" I said "yeah...just want to get to the gym. I was dressed to go yesterday so I'm anxious to go today since it didn't work out last night." He went on to explain how late he got out, had to give a ride, baby would've been asleep....I just let him talk. Walked them out and told him to have a good one.
My plan AGAIN is to have dinner ready and tell him he can have some if he's hungry. If not, no biggie...I'll just have left overs for a few days.
One last thing...on his way out he mentioned one of our best frieds is coming into town Thursday and staying a couple of nights. I know it will be a drunk-fest and I won't be invited to see him. Not sure why he mentioned it knowing I would have no plans with them. Maybe he just wanted to make it known why he will out of pocket Thurs./Fri. night.
No biggie...Just have to let him be. If I leanred anything it's I can't change a thing about him just can chnage my attitude.
