Also, I feel compelled to further clarify something.
My last trip to urgent care was for an X-ray of #2's hand. The wife was not with me - it was just #2 & #3. And he indeed had a broken finger. We went, got treated, got discharge instructions, and off we went.
In fact, I can't tell you the last time we were together in the emergency room, urgent care, or doctor office for an illness or trauma involving the kids. We know that the other person is capable of handling what is going on. We let each other know what is happening, and keep in touch. But we are not "helicopters," feeling like we both need to be invloved in every single difficult event that the kids experience. Indeed, we both realize that there is often a benefit to having just one parent present in some situations.
It's been my experience that, as our kids got older, the "Oh well" factor kicked-in a lot more. Stuff happens. Let the other one know, take care of it, and tell stories about it later...
I just wanted to clear that up, lest people think I am at best a selfish father, and at worst a total assbag.
