First off. Great job on not snooping!!! Give yourself a pat on the back for that one. I know that the temptation must have been overwhelming.
Don't use your anger to detach. It may help you detach, but not the kind of detachment that you want. Detachment because of resentment is not a path to reconciliation. You want to detach with love. It's pretty hard to do but I think that you can do it. It sounds like you already know this though.
You're not pathetic. The people around you don't understand the depth of your love for your W. You can get on with your life while still leaving an opening for reconciliation. Re-read the chapter on GAL.
Peace, B
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008
