Piecing - H still contacts OW

[Heartbroken]

Hello,

So many 'what ifs' - so he is slowly weaning himself off the OW and like another person said to me on these boards - it's easy for them to want to be with the OP - it's all fun and carefree (or so they think) and then to really come back to the LBS they know it will be harder and a heluva lot more work and effort. We can make it harder or easier on them.

I know we (LBS's) have given them so much more than we may ever get back from them but that is our decision. Either we are in this to work it out at any cost (even to our emotional selves - to a certain extent) or we need to get out -- there really cannot be some point in between. The question others have told me about is: Will what you are going to say or do to your H bring you closer to him or push him further away - what is YOUR goal????

My hope is that someday when my H is completely out of his fog (at I am seeing more of that each week) he will be grateful for all the love and support I gave him unconditionally during this crazy time. It's a hope --not so much an expectation. I often question myself on why I continue and why I try so hard and it comes down to I just cannot imagine life without my lover, my best friend my life's partner...

Take it day by day and figure out your goal(s)... What is it YOU want.

You're doing great!!

HB