Hey everyone,

Thanks for the welcome. SB - hopefully things don't get more difficult over here. I don't think I can take much more!!!

Dagny - I think that there a lot of us women out there with the same issue. At the birth of your child, you are handing a bundle of flesh that needs 24 hour care. When do you turn it off? When you do, you feel like a bad mother. WHen you give your child the attention your made to feel like you should, you become a bad wife. I used to tell my friends that my H got 1/2 car ride home to go from boss to husband/father. I get all of the 2 minutes it takes to walk down the stairs after putting the kids to bed to go from mom to wife/sex kitten! Just not possible! Unfortunately, I never managed to voice that problem to my H and just resented him for expecting it of me.

Acorn - That's exactly why I'm giving myself time before I give him my list. I want to make sure the things we discuss are the true issues that I have. Not this stupid sideline stuff.

I just finished reading "5 Love Languages". Excellent book for those of you who may not have read it. My love language is definitely #2 Quality Time, followed in a close second by #5 Physical Touch. I'm still trying to figure out H's. I'm torn between Words of Affirmation and Acts of Service. If I'm going to rank, though I would say Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation, Gifts, Physical Touch, Quality Time. Doesn't it just figure that my most important two are his least important??? It certainly helps to clarify things, though. So now on to experimentation to figure out if I'm right. I'll let you know.

Good thing today: I knew H was going to have a pretty stressful day yesterday. The kids and i were out at Target and I saw a CD that H wanted was on special since it was the first day of release. I picked it up for him and put it in his car with a card after he went to bed last night. He called me this afternoon when he got a little lull to say thank you and tell me how much he appreciated it. Yea for me!
Erin

"A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing." -George Bernard Shaw