Thankyou - I will try that. I have made so many mistakes with him because I let my emotions make me so angry about the affair. I realize I do need to change because all he sees is someone who is desperate and needy and maybe thinks I will never forgive him about the affair and rub it in the rest of our lives. I have to respond to his emails about visitation to see my daughter but I will change the game and respond in a way that I usually dont by being very brief and to the point of the visits. Other than that I will not email him first or contact. Thanks for the advice. I feel as if only I would have handled the situation better when he said he wanted to repair the marriage - but how do you not talk about the affair right away - its so hard and I am so angry he did this to me after 20 years together - my 6 year old has been through so much - he hardly visited her the first three months. I just think he got swept up in his own needs. But I know I can forgive I just want him to show remorse if he comes back.
