H4C,
Make sure to document when OM moved in, conversations with DD saying that she is sad and uncomfortable,and the alien conversations with your W. You are definitely the most fit parent. Just make sure your W isn't aware of it. Sorry your DD is having to go through this. She's just a child and deserves to be loved and nurtured.

DBing people are the best, aren't they?



Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are.
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