Luke, show strength.... Buy her some moving boxes and tape, that would send a very clear message font you think?
She is being nicer because you took a huge step that she never thought you would have the balls to take. I am very proud of you for finally getting tired of her crap.
Stay strong my friend. Get her stuff that she can use when your marriage is over. That will show her that you are dead serious and not just playing around. You either need a committed wife or to be let out of this marriage.
Luke, great job in taking a stand! As a fellow member of the "Bomb A Year Club" I know how difficult a choice this was for you to make, but what you did was change how the game is to be played. She doesn't know the rules anymore, she can't just push the same button and get the same response, she's feeling things out and isn't sure what the heck is going on now. You asked "is it real", well yes and no. She is now going through thoughts and feelings she hasn't had to go through before with you, she's trying to figure it all out. So you will see all sorts of different behaviours here, the key is not to take any one too seriously at this point. Stick to your guns but remember a strong man is also a compassionate man. There is no need to stick it in her face every chance you get, so don't even consider doing it. I would just get her a nice, normal present that shows caring and thought. This has nothing to do with filing, you've done that, been there now see where it goes. What it's about right now is having a great family Christmas. Keep us updated. Btw, I've been separated for almost two months now and my W, the Ice Queen, shows no signs of changing but now I'm a far more distant and less available target for her crap!
