It's tough. Like right now. Sunday and Monday nights he is alone because OW works jacked up hours. In my heart I think..."why isn't he calling me? She's not there, isn't he thinking of me?" When I spoke to him the other night, he asked me why I didn't call him on my way home from a party? I asked "Why?". He said we could have met up and done something. I'm not usually the one who calls him. I DON'T call him, unless I absolutely have to. So, it was weird to hear him say that. Am I doing the right thing by not calling him? He said that one of the issues was that I didn't show him the attention he needs. But, when we were started going through this and he couldn't decide whether he should stay with me or give it a go with the OW, he told me to give him his space. I was super clingy and I think I pushed him out. So, I'm confused. We are supposed to look for the things that work. How do you know what's working? I haven't called him in weeks unless he calls me first. I don't see any movement closer to me. But, if I do initiate contact, I risk rejection or no response (which has happens a lot). What do I do? Do I just stay dark and see what happens? If he doesn't call or text me today, that will be 2 days. I know it sounds pathetic, but we haven't ever gone 2 full days without any contact. It just makes me nervous. Help help help.


M 5yrs
1st baby-girl born 6/18/08
Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego
H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07
D Final 07/10
OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her
Me, now - happier than I ever was with him