Hi, sorry to see you here! Firstly, I think you need to take the blinders off here, you say you were extremely happy together for the past 1.5 years. Now, one fight does not make a partner move out especially one who is "extremely happy". I don't mean to sound cruel here but it all couldn't have been roses. Look beyond the fight because I think those are probably the real reasons for the fight in the first place and his sudden departure. Secondly, your proposed goals are all things HE is going to do, what are you gonna do? We can only control what we do, not what our S's do. Set goals based on what YOU are going to do to get to where you want your sitch to be. this is a lousy place to be, especially at Christmas but I suggest you sit back, don't panic and show H the person you want to be. Don't talk D with him, if he wants it let him do the work. You want your M so put your energy there. I hope this helps, hang in there!
