Hello Everyone...I'm new even though I've been here before...
H and I were sepereated a year and a half ago...got back together and were Extremely happy for a year and a half.
Well...This Thanksgiving all hell broke loose. We had a huge fight. I have a 4 month daughter and she was put in the middle...H thought I was taking her away. H was a little drunk and took things out of context...Families got involved...UGLY things were said and done on both sides and when we came back home (fight happened out of town) he moved his stuff out.
I've been pretty strong. We met for lunch last week where he told me I went crazy. H spoke with so much hate and anger and can not at all see where he is wrong. I didn't pursue trying to show him because I knew I would just fuel the fire. H said he doesn't want to be with me, etc. I left it alone and wrote a brief email just telling him that I don't want a divorce but i will respect whatever he decides to do. Since then we took our daughter to see Santa and had a nice dinner out...laughed, talked, etc.
But since the Santa trip communication has been all about our baby. Never ugly just about her. He picks her up every morning and we are pleasant. But that is the very thing that gets to me even though I don't show it.
I am letting him lead since he has said he doesn't want to be with me. It is just difficult because he shows no emotion with me and seems that he doesn't care about me. I know I can't see what is going on in his mind but I want to turn the tides. Anyway...here are my goals in the meantime:
1)I want H to show interest in my life...ask me about what's going on in my life 2)I want H to invite me along when he picks up baby 3)I want H to come back home
I realize that I have to give him space and not talk about us because in his mind there is no us. I guess I just need to come here and vent and if anyone wants to give some perspective that would be awesome.
