Don't know what I'm doing anymore - Help.

[SirPrizeMe]

Ann, right on.

You wrote somewhere else:

I love my husband. I want my M to work. I just am not sure how to get the "in love" feelings back.

Terrific!

How about - Fake it til you make it!

On the scary thoughts thing -
I don't mean to suggest you should deny your feelings, only to be careful about them, to take care of them. yes recognize them and validate yourself - it's ok to feel what you feel. But then own them and be responsible for them and decide if that is what you want.

I can feel angry at the driver on the road for pointing out my mistake with a hand gesture, but really I could do better. I could feel sorry that I made a mistake in the first place and apologetic that I scared someone by drifting out of my lane. I don't mean to draw a direct analogy, only to say, it's my choice how I react.

I spend a lot of time trying to focus on the good my H does. The things about him that i have always loved. If i wasn't doing that I'd probably be a WAW. I don't want to get to that point. I have goals and dreams and none of them include me getting a divorce.

Good for you! Terrific! This is GREAT.