I don't know if I should continue to DB.

[forward]

Well, I told H that I don't want him to care for D2 in the house when he has some time off. He was upset, complaining that his apartment is too small & that he is not going to spend more time caring for her because his apartment is too small. Which, somehow, is my fault.

Didn't upset me (as it would have before, so that's a 180). Gosh, that does sound like a problem, doesn't it???? I was not mean but I had clear boundaries.

H will not take the time to go see D2's Christmas program. I will be the only one attending alone--my family is too far away to visit for such things. =( Well, H's loss.

I suspect that:

a) the day H wanted to come over here is OW's day off and maybe H doesn't want to be around her w/D2 or (the thing that worried me) he had her IN here which I cannot deal with, and/or

b) he just wants to do laundry here cause hauling laundry when you live in a tiny apartment isn't so very much fun.....

I did buy him a chair for her and he has eaten a few meals with us recently, but basically he's still deep in the tunnel so I continue to keep expectations at zero.

H, who has always been rather negative but really fell off the deep end in MLC, gets his wish!! He doesn't have to deal with boring friends and family and he can spend Christmas w/crazy dream girl. He doesn't have to travel (something he complained about) or be bothered with buying presents or spending time with my family or his family or ANYONE.

No talk of D for a while but it wouldn't surprise me if he foists something on me again soon.