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I found 8 signs that our relationship is toxic.
1. H is emotionally unavailable
2. H is non-reienforcing for me
3. I am overly dependent
4. H has the power to impact my feelings about myself
5. I am a chronic fixer
6. I have a fantasy that H will change or come around
7. H won't forgive or forget
8. My needs/wants are being ignored

This is bang on!
J~


M 35
H 29
M 4 yrs T 9 yrs
D 3
S born 10/19/07
Bomb 09/10/07 Separated next day
OW - broke up and H moved out 09/07/08
Status - still figuring this out