No sg, I do not think you were wrong at all. Every sitch has a different approach, bear has been outstandingly good.
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My feelings are right now, my h is controlling and trying to control me. I'm thinking that h does not know how to deal with all of what i said on saturday. I guess guilt is good in some cases.
Controlling? Hmmm....I'm sorry bear, but I do not see this as controling at all. I see this more as you GAL and him afraid that you are. I see this more as he is afraid that you are going to be fine without him, and he is not going to be fine without you. Just my take. RCR is more clinical in her take on things, I am more....let's say, realistic. Hey...I love RCR, she was the first person I spoke to when I came aboard. I love her posts. But not everything can be so clinical.
We are here to give advice and support. No one can tell you what to do. You already know this.
The tree is just a tree bear.....you know what Christmas is really about. It will be ok. Just like Thanksgiving was.
Guilt is good in some cases. Maybe so. But don't let the guilt of the other party strengthen your thoughts of laying on more guilt. That is not healthy at all. I know you would never do this.....but just thought i would mention it.
Everyday is going to bring you something new and difficult to deal with, however.....if you just keep being you, once again, I will go out on that limb and say you will be ok.
Hugs to you my sweet bear
Jeanette
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
