RCR i am jealous you mentioned in you post you and your sweetie were having sex, wish that were true on my side.
That reference was from 2005--Late March Through May. After he moved out and the OW relationship became physical that stopped.
We had full sex next in November 2005 while he was home for a few months. Then once in January 2006 while he was home for a week of button-pushing. When he was home from Apr-June 2006, no sex. We went without sex for 18 months. Correction: I went without. Oh well.
Once the OW relationship was physical, Sweetheart lived with the OW when he was not living at home.
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My feelings are right now, my h is controlling and trying to control me.
Right, he doesn't know how to deal with what you said. But what are you going to act as if? Are you going to act as if he is controlling you...that is are you going to react as though you are being controlled? Or are you going to act (and be) in control of yourself?
I realize you may know his mood when he walks through the door. That isn't the point of acting as if. The point is to act as if it (whatever it refers to) is positive.
