WAW does not want to try

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hi wawpioneer. It's awesome that she's back. For her, that's alot. It took her admitting (even if only to herself) that she wasn't right and maybe should have stayed.

be patient. I had an EA. my biggest struggle w/ my H now is that he wants so much from me physically and emotionally. he wants me back the way i was before all the problems. I can't get there yet. I am always thinking to myself "why can't he just be happy that I'm here and I want this and I'm trying?" follow her lead, listen to her and continue validating her feelings. She will have good days, where she knows this was the right idea and bad days, where she's wondering why she even cares. be patient...

I said this when you first came and said she was back and i stand by it. NO EXPECTATIONS. even if you can't see it, she thinks (in someway) she's trying.

She says that your only focus is R and church. Go out with some friends and catch a movie. go to the gym or park. take the kids out just go hang out somewhere.

as for inviting her somewhere, i say it's good. I wouldn't go for anything romantic or R focused, but just something fun. my H and i go to movies, go walking around the mall, going to the gym, going to dave and busters (grown up arcade), mini golf or bowling. Just something fun where its not so much about finding something to talk about, but just remembering what it feels like to be out with one another and enjoying yourselves. Let her get used to being with you again.