Yes, start acting as if you two are divorced, amicably. I still think he needs to move out before the sale of the house, but that's my opinion. Also, how he says ILY and how hot you are will sure makes you uncomfortable, among other things that he may be doing (being nice, hugs if any, etc.) I am not good at writing, but I would think something along the line of : "I feel awkard that we are still acting like a couple. I would prefer you not to say things like that" "I need sometime to be by myself. It would really help me if you can find another place to stay until the house is sold. thanks" "As we are divorcing, let's have a schedule on who will take care of DD so I can start planning my life and make the transition easier" I would not be COLD, but firm and civil, business like. Of course, no blaming. Don't act as if he is hurting you. It's only that you do not feel comfortable and would appreciate some space and some privacy to deal with your own emotions (NO BLAMING!!!) I would think having a firm schedule regarding childcare is good as you will need that eventually. I don't know what your arrangement is now, but I would think having him just take care of DD whenver he wants is not a strong signal to him yet. If you have a schedule that he has DD duty MWF night or whatever, stick to it so he will get a taste of life after D. Go dark but still be polite. Think if you hate your boss, if your boss ask what you are doing after work, you would still say "I am going out with some friends for dinner (act happy). Have a good evening" and then get out ASAP, right? You won't show that you hate your boss, and would still talk, but would keep it to a minimum with no personal info whatsoever. LO, I think you are doing great considering the circumstances. Take care. I know it hurts. I feel your H really has not thought or realized what he is doing. He is only thinking/living at the moment, with strong attachment/guilt towards OW. My H went through that (and still is). My H has told me so many times that he is living day to day and just hoping to get it through the day and the crisis at that moment as he cannot think further ahead. Watch for signs of H. He will be checking you out and having doubts of what he is doing. HUGS to you. Take care and remember, no matter what, you will be a better and more considerate person after this. It's NOT OVER YET.
