Recreating trust for my H after EA?

[RedHeadWife]

I told him ILYBINILWY. That's how i felt/feel.

So now here we are, i'm not in love with or attracted to my H and he doesn't trust me. I

This is where I got that from -- you are STILL saying you don't love your H. Bottom line. I figure it this way -- if you truly want your M to work out, then you need to figure out how to *get past* this mindset or, IMHO, whatever you are doing or think you are doing, your true feelings are probably still showing or coming out in the way you act toward your H.

I also remember responding to you over on Newcomers. What I told you over there still stands: that being, if you truly want your M, which you say you do, be careful of your actions/feelings or you may end up with a WAS in the long run anyway.

Who knows maybe I'M being defensive, as the tables are turned in our sitches, however, it just seems to me that you keep saying 2 totally different things and I bet anything that your actions at home are projecting that -- #1 I want my M and that's why I'm here, but on the other hand #2 I don't love my husband -- I didn't back then and I still don't now.

I'm not actually talking about the cell phone/computer, etc. as far as why your H should be trusting of you. I'm talking about LOVING HIM AGAIN for real -- he will feel that and that is when his trust will begin to come back.

Again, this is JUST my opinion. I could be full of crap, but this is just what I am seeing in your sitch from the outside and from what I have read here from you.