I never realized how important respect is either, until now.
A couple of books I found early on in my sitch have been of great help in sorting out the fundamental difference between men and women in relationships. One for women and one for men. Ladies: "For Women Only" by Shaunti Feldhahn; Guys: "For Men Only" by Jeff Feldhahn and Shaunti Feldhahn.
In the first book, it explains that a man feels love through the respect that their woman shows them. Not really an eye-opener for men, but it is a little difficult for some women to realize, I guess.
(In the second book, I had a few major eye-openers as well. Like the fact that, for women the marriage act does not "seal the deal" in their heart, not like it does for their husbands. Wives need constant and continual reassurances that their H still love them. That one floored me. Guilty as charged.)
Originally Posted By: tryingtoholdon
Mark no I don't know what it's like to be a man. That also could have been the reason my own husband was unhappy. As he has made that same comment before. Something I also did a 180 on. Our marriage was bad so I got used to depending on myself and doing for my kid's. I kind of threw him out of the equation.
Trying, this sounds like something my W might have written were she being fully candid. She knew I was unhappy, but her response was to assume it was entirely because of her. And her response was not to properly address the problems but to complain about them ineffectively ("Why aren't you happy?!!!") -- and then to disregard me altogether when that didn't work.
