I have learned that you never trust your best friend when it comes to your wife or your husband.
Yeah, blackfoot can confirm this, too.
Bomber: This is all good advice. Feel free to email me at slinky22 at gmail.com if you need any more advice. My 1st wife had an affair and I handled it TOTALLY THE WRONG WAY.
With regard to shining a light on her behavior, remember this: Openness moves to health; secrecy leads to pathology.