LISTEN TO NOP, he knows what he's talking about, whether you think you want to do what he says or not or think it is too hard or maybe she'll leave, etc. HE KNOWS WHAT HE'S TALKING ABOUT.

Remember and listen to me: SHE had the A, is still having the A, WITH YOUR BEST FRIEND, for goodness sake!! If I were having an A, I honestly have to say the best thing that my H could do would be, as NOP said, to MAN UP and TELL her that SHE'S DONE w/ OM. TAKE HER BACK. Don't worry that you may lose her by your actions, she's already kind of gone. I would think if you really want to get her back, you need to be the man and whip her into shape.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10