CVA - Have I Done Everything...No!

[Heimlich]

I miss your old thread titles, sigh. Oh well, this'll probably be more productive.

So, are you too picky on a house or just making excuses for not buying one by finding fault with everything? Otherwise, no house is going to be perfect. That said, no sense in settling on something you're not going to be happy in either.

As I've said before, I think the LRT is about the only thing you've got to work with now. Might get your W to notice your absence AND give you space/sanity for yourself.

Take WC to Xmas dinner or not? My colleagues have no problem with it so why should I? I dont know, but its bothering me.

If it's bothering you, probably not a good idea. Why do you want to take her? Are you really ready to date someone else -- low key or not? Are you doing this just to attract your W's attention and feeling guilty for doing that?

I find patience and the occassional swift kick in the rear is the necessary combo to get my girls to do their homework. Is this something that the two of you can sit down and discuss? Hear her out for her ideas and really think about whether or not they are good ideas, and work for your kids, even if they're different from YOUR ideas. When you get a house, consistency in what is expected of the kids homework wise will be a good thing. Also, if she was blaming you and you have been helping, no harm in standing up for yourself. No need to let it get heated though.

Hey, your W poked her head up and admitted to the reality of the situation. That said, he's 10. As Sir said, a little heart to heart about respect and treating his Mom with respect regardless of what's going on between mom and dad probably a good thing. My oldest being pig-headed stubborn, I find myself doing this weekly it seems regarding her behavior towards her sister.

Oh, and start trying to be more positive. You've got a way of subtly undercutting yourself when you post. Stop it. You're a good guy, worthy of the love of a good woman. Question for you: Is a good woman liable to want to stay with someone always turning the negative onto himself?

BD