is he too young for MLC?

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My thoughts were if we could fix the sex problem then we would be more willing to fix the other stuff. We need to heal and not re-hash everything. I can't convince him of this. i know he needs to see it for himself. So how do I need to re-act or act for myself when he says no sex? I validate his feelings on this but tell him I disagree? Do I tell him why?

I know in my heart that he doesn't like being rejected from me and I was doing that quite a bit when it came to sex. So him saying he wants to go with out for a month seems like he is asking for more rejection. I don't want him to be reminded of that hurt I want him to heal from it.

Trying to figure out what the best thing for me to do is. He's really icy today and I think that might have to do with yesterday's events. That I wasn't strong enough to push him away so I failed his test. I can't be perfect and it's hard to resist him.

Sorry this is all over the place but that's how it's playing in my head.