I know all about those texting bills. Last month H had a $500 phone bill!! Texting and overages. The bill was taken out of my account for some reason...I can't describe to you how mad I was. I called the phone company and the bank and got the money back though. We split up the family plan in August I guess because he didn't want me to see all the texting/talking....after that bill I am glad we did.
I am not sure what happened either, even in hindsight. Just keep doing the things you are doing for you. If you have expectations for him..then it can always get worse. Expect nothing from him. I am glad you talked to him about your Christmas stuff and I hope you got it. Relax and decorate and enjoy your break from school.
With me and H it went from bad to worse to rock bottom and then to me accepting it and trying to move on. That is when he called. When I decided to move on. It's almost like he sensed that I was finally doing ok.
I know what you mean about him "competing with you in life". It always seemed like if things were going well for me H was jealous. I think that is a strange emotion for someone you love. I only wanted the best for him and would never be "jealous" of his accomplishments. You sound like you are doing good in knowing what you want and going for it. You will be ok no matter what the outcome. Hang in there.
