Recreating trust for my H after EA?

[RedHeadWife]

Ann, what I'm hearing from you though is that "I still don't love him" -- then why are you *willing* to work on your M? You need to work on YOU and what YOU are going to do to *choose* to love him again. I don't see anything positive in your post at all. You say you don't love him anymore and you don't know if he is going to be able to *do* what you may need him to do to fix the M.

Honestly, I think you need to look long & hard at yourself and figure out if you even want this M. If you do, then you need to again look long & hard at YOURSELF and figure out what YOU can do to make things better. If you are constantly looking to your H to make the M better/work again, it probably isn't going to happen. You will constantly be *judging* how well he is doing at making things better for YOU, etc.

As far as the trust issue goes for your H, it takes time and your actions are going to be what helps him. From reading all of your posts, it just doesn't sound to me like you are probably giving him any reason to trust you again.

I'm not honestly going off on you or bashing you, but this is just what I am seeing/hearing from you.