Still hopeful for some pleasant surprises

[SirPrizeMe]

WAS32, great, thanks for the encouragement and advice.

I am hoping one day to be invited back into her life.
At the same time, she has filed for a divorce. We have a schedule, we have a court date (October 2008).

Here's the next question -
how do I balance the "make every interaction positive" with the "I'm moving on with my life"?

She continues to live in the family house. I'm professionally employed, she is not. all of our income goes to the house. I'm living on savings.

Shall I continue to let her stay in the house, get my apartment on savings? or should I force the timeline on reducing our expenses and living within our means. This would mean selling the house (forcing her to move), and probably, forcing her to get a job.

My attorney advises me to move forward on the financial side. That seems like a good way to divorce. Not sure if it is a good way to DB.