Matilda, The mistrust is around her perception that I'm unwilling to do my fair share of household chores.
She was pushing me to get a new job again this week. I decided to push back. We were able to get a little more clarity regarding her concerns.
She thinks that I'm not reaching my potential at my current job. I work with mostly clients on some kind of state or federal assistance. My W thinks that I'm afraid to work with higher income clients. I have been more comfortable working with those in need. I see it as a fit; she sees it as settling.
I told my W that I would not take a position strictly because it paid more. I told her that job satisfaction is also a factor. I said that if there were a position that paid more, and that I thought was a good fit, I would consider it. I said that I'm in charge of my own career, and that I will not change jobs on a whim.
I hope this backs her off a little. I'll think about her comments. There are negatives with my job that would be nice to rid of.
I met with my IC last week. His advice is that I should stand my ground on the important issues, and not let my W take away the positives in my life to meet her whims, or allow her to avoid the work she needs to do.
We were dancing together on Friday and Saturday night. On Sunday, I assisted her with her cooking job.
She's having a job crisis at this time and is considering resigning from her position. She has the cooking job, so there is income to cover expenses. We'll see how that situations plays out.
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
