Don't know what I'm doing anymore - Help.

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Thanks for your insight Sandi.

I think this is his way of testing you. In his mind, you did all these things for the OM and now he is pushing your buttons to test you and see how far you will go for him.

I agree that he's probably testing me with this. Am i willing to do something that simple for him. That is why i do it.

I bet he almost sounds anything but sweet and sexy when he is telling you this, is he. I can almost see a snear on his face when he says it.

It depends. Sometimes he does it and i can tell he's just messing around, sometimes it's just as you described. I can see it in his face and hear it in his voice. He doesn't care if i do it, but he knows that i will and he knows i don't want to. He wants to make me unconfortable.

He is obsessed with the thought of you desiring an OM or the thought of OM having seen you or desired you, etc. That is why he won't leave you alone and why he chooses inappropriate times to test you like he does.

i think he is a bit obsessed with it. I can imagine it's hard for him. Here we were having a pretty active sex life, then it stops, then i'm talking about it with OM and now I won't do it with him. I think he's relating my lack of attraction now to OM. like "i must have liked him better physically" (not at all) but it started before that. I don't think he can see that right now.

It's not b/c he wants to make love to you.....he is using you. I think down on some deep level, this is a way he has of punishing you also.

I think in some ways he is and sometimes not. He doesn't do well at hiding his emotions or thoughts (most of the time) and there are times when he says something and I can tell he's just trying to be hurtful and mean, but there are other times when he gets really sad about it. The problem is when he gets sad, if he keeps dwelling on it, he gets to the point in his head where he starts being mean. It's almost like he thought about it and it's not fair and I hurt him, so he'll hurt me.