Thanks for stopping by my thread, waw. I'm happy with things being fairly amicable at this point (though I'm sure she hates me quite a bit right now) -- hopefully it will lend to some quality coparenting down the road as the kids grow up.
And for you and your sitch...
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Had D4 this weekend. Had a lot of fun picking out tins for the Xmas cookies we are making as gifts. Not much moolah this year so we are being creative. D4 can't wait to use the cookie cutters and decorate with colored sugar
People will understand the money sitch, and I'm sure D4 will love making the cookies much more than buying gifts. Great for the character and Xmas spirit too! My kids and I made Halloween cookies this year, and had a blast (though having the two of them battling to do everything was a bit trying at times)!
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Hasbend has turned completely cold hearted.
Unfortunately, I'm not surprised, given the pattern I've seen from him. I'm sorry that his head has yet to find the exit from his anus, but hopefully it will someday before he suffocates. It just amazes me that our spouses could make these decisions to not work on the M, not better themselves, etc, and be okay with doing so. For me, it is simply unconsciounable.
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Of course I am not allowed to bring her to the childrens parties because he "got those friends in the separation". Makes me want to puke.
I actually just did -- what bs! And, like you said, so immature. It is ridiculous to split friends like that. Friends should be able to do what they want to do, see who they want to see, etc -- not do what WE want them to do and see who WE want them to see.
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Sure you all have been done some variation of this path
A little bit, sadly, but not that bad. It does suck though.
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Also, he refuses to call my home "Mommy's house" he continues to call it "Grampa's house". In all reality itis my Dad's duplex, but I am the one living there!
I have no doubt that he does this to directly affect you and your emotions. Just being a jerk still because he still hasn't "gotten it." He still hasn't looked inward to see the things that he needs to work on (such as this). I'm sorry that your D4 has to be placed in the middle of this. Just remember to do your best to take the high road and let such comments roll of your back. Don't give him the satisfaction of knowing it gets to you, and you'll eventually take the wind out of his sails. Just enjoy your picnic. It'll make you feel better in the long run, too.
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My 30th birthday is rapidly approaching and I think my gift to myself with be filing the petition for divorce.
Well, when it comes -- happy birthday! Isn't 30 the new 20?
As far as filing for the D, just make sure that you are ready to throw in the towel and can live with the potential outcome. I can see your H as the type of person who might actually wake up a little while following the filing, but I can also see him being to stubborn and prideful to do so. Your H does remind me of the old me quite a bit (sadly), and that is why I still hold out a sliver of hope for him.
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I think 2008 should be a year of change.
Amen, waw. Amen.
Take care of yourself -- got any snow over in Boston? We've got a nice little layer right now and it is currently snowing, so... Woo Hoo!
