Need Help - New Here

[houndfan]

TP -

I will check the other thread that Dom has suggested, but again you will see that the most important thing that you can do right now I think is to accept the situation as it is. As Fish said, accept that a possible outcome of your sitch is a D and then let that soak in. Let it marinate in your heart so that your truely accept the possible outcome. Now, that does not mean that you will receive that outcome, nor does it suggest that you agree with the outcome, it just means that you understand that regardless of what you do it is a possible outcome. Once you let the pain of that settle in, you can get to work.

I think that the issue that I had for a few weeks was that I would not accept that as an outcome. So rather than embracing the pain that came with that acceptance I would ignore it and everytime something did not go as I had "planned" I would fall flat on my face and want to give in. So when I was "failing" it was not that I was failing per se it was that I had refused to accept the possibilities of my sitch and therefore the image of what I thought DB'ing was did not come true. So I thought that I was failing.

So, I started to listen to the members of this board, I began to "journal" as often as possible, in order that I oculd reread the events and see them through the eyes of those on this board. Then the failures didn't seem so bad, nor did them tear me apart.

So, listen to those that take time to help you, feel free to vent. But do not give up and remember to adjust to what is working.

We're here for you my friend.