I don't think all guys conform to the "guy code" you refer to. One of my H's really good friends started an EA w/ me after H left. It all started when he came over to help me w/ the weed eater. Honestly, I was totally innocent -- he texted me later and told me he got a hard on when he pulled up in front of our house & saw me. Anyway, I think it happens more often than not that it's a "friend."

I would also say that, from this experience, I bet it's not going to be as *exciting* once they know you know. It could die out just b/c of that. I would venture to say that a lot of EA's continue and just happen in general b/c of the "honeymoon" phase & the excitement, etc. that is going on.

Last edited by RedHeadWife; 12/10/07 04:14 PM.
Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10