No a filling I wouldn't expect to call my husband if we divorced. But say like our daughter has asthma that she has outgrown. But if it was to ever act up again and I had to take her to the doctor I would respect him and call him. But in that case it wouldn't be about him or me or whatever is going on between us. It would be about our children in that moment and giving him the courtesy of knowing and getting to chose if he wants to be there for her also. Same with an ER visit. My BIL when he was young went in for a simple cut. They gave him the meds to numb it before stitching and he had a severe reaction to it. Ended up in there for 5 days. Also my chilren tend to be very close to husband and I. So they do love having us both there for support.
Also I think I have mentioned this I was divorced before. I had two children with my ex but my husband now raises them. Has always loved them as his own. Back when my ex was having visitation my daughter was 4 years old at the time. She took a bottle of baby asprin that was at his house earlier that day and ate them. He took her to urgent care and apparently they were slammed busy. A nurse practioner checked her out and said she thought she was okay. To watch her closely. Well, he brought her home that evening by like 4:00. Never told me he took her there or anything happened. Later that evening she started throwing up and was very lethargic. I called him up and asked him if he knew if anyone there had a flu or was sick or anything because daughter was sick. He them mentions what happens. Of course my initial reaction was just on my daughter and I got her care and she turned out to be okay after a night or two in the hospital. Later then I was pissed. Yes, I did use this against him and his visitation was taken away. He was only allowed supervised visitation for awhile until he proved himself. He also had to take a parenting/counseling class. In our divorce papers it states he has to inform me if he even takes them to the doctor. Which of course he nevers does. He is a low life and always has been. That is a long story and of course there was more to that story.
I guess I just wanted to bring it up in case this comes to divorce for you. It was instances like this that when the divorce were finalized that granted me things like sole custody. It was his behavior and attitude during seperation. In my heart honestly it was for the safety of the children. Your wife sounds like a fighter and a spit fire. So something like a trip to the ER that she didn't know about might send her over the edge if she is just as protective with the kiddo's.
